If on the first date you ask a girl if she has a piercing on…. (well, you understand), most likely she will send you away, and you are unlikely to shine. Even an innocent question, what is her favorite color, can cost you the desired second meeting. Why? You may seem superficial to her. She has enough life experience, she can tell a lot, and you are only able to ask her a meaningless question!
Women have strange logic. Therefore, we have come up with 50 questions for you that will help you not to disrupt the date and get to know your girlfriend inside and out. Of course, you should not ask all these questions at once on one date, choose a few and dilute the conversation with them.
1. What would you never repeat in your life?
2. What would you choose: to be twice as smart or twice as happy?
3. For what reason did you cry for the last time?
4. In what situation did you feel the most nervous?
5. What fact about you might surprise your parents?
6. What is your worst habit?
7. What superpower would you like to have for one day?
8. What superhero do you think is the most attractive man?
9. What's the weirdest thing your pet does?
10. Where would you live if you could choose any place on Earth?
11. Who knows you best?
12. What clubs did you go to at school?
13. Finish the sentence: “Probably best of all I…”
14. What was the last book you really liked?
15. The best show of all time?
16. At what age did you like to live the most?
17. If you could go back in time, what advice would you give yourself?
18. Finish the sentence: “Most of all dawn, I would be upset if I never…”
19. Apologize or ask permission?
20. Endless love or money?
21. If you knew you were going to die in a week, what would you do?
22. What song have you listened to most times?
23. Lie down on the beach or wander around Europe with excursions?
24. If you were a child prodigy, what would you do?
25. What is the first thing you will do if you win the lottery?
26. Which celebrity would you trade places with?
27. If you were a musician, what would you name your first album?
28. What life story do your friends remind you from time to time?
29. If there was only one seasoning left in the world, what would you choose?
30. Ideal number of people for a Friday party?
31. The most unpleasant age for you?
33. What fictional character reminds you of yourself?
35. What program did you love to watch as a child?
37. In any game where you choose a category of questions, what would you choose first?
38. In what things are you superstitious?
39. Tell me about the worst thing in your life.
40. Which non-political person would you support in an election? Or whose election race would you be interested in watching?
42. Which dead person would you like to have lunch with if it were possible?
43. Do you think it's important to follow the news?
44. What is the best present you have ever received?
45. Would you be willing to sacrifice one of your fingers if in return you got free Wi-Fi everywhere you go?
46. What would be the first thing you would do if you turned into a man for one day?
47. If you could give a gift to anyone for any amount, what would you give and to whom?
48. A large comfortable house in a residential area or a tiny house with a great view?
49. What is the nicest thing others can say about you?
A few words about the internal barriers that prevent every man from quickly finding a common language with the object of his sympathy. Is it really worth diving into yourself? The only problem is that everyone tries to look better than they really are. How to communicate with a girl?
You don't have to worry about the impression you make. What then matters? In pursuit of a goal, it is impossible to relax and behave as naturally as possible.
And that's exactly what makes sense. Is it worth talking to a girl, you ask yourself. While the guy is weighing all the pros and cons: to get acquainted with the girl or not, another man is already appearing on her horizon.
Internal cordons and barriers should not be a decisive obstacle. Being in a good mood, a person is able to flutter like a butterfly: you can easily walk along the curb. With girls, everything is much more complicated, you have to constantly step over yourself. Curb over the abyss - the impossible is possible? After passing, you can understand what you will need to work on.
The male representative is driven by different circumstances: when everything is fine, you don’t need to invent a role for yourself, you can just be yourself. As practice shows, laying your own curb over the abyss is a matter of just a few minutes. “Walking” freely is definitely not going to work, on a subconscious level, the guy begins to control all his movements and words.
Interest is a kind of control that is not so easy to get rid of. Psychologists say that everything in nature responds to the free flow of energy. As soon as a person begins to worry, get nervous, thinking out and inventing something new for himself, everything around collapses.
The reciprocal interest disappears, the girl will definitely feel the tension. She will think that you are acting strangely. That is why it is so important to learn how to communicate with the fair sex, releasing all your fears. Maximum emancipation, calmness and self-confidence.
Step by step, overcoming obstacles on your way, you will come to the realization that in this life you should not be afraid of anything. Experiences and fears become a real stumbling block, and this life stage must be experienced without giving up. Communication with girls should be treated philosophically.
Do not be afraid of rejection, always try to interest your interlocutor by telling an interesting story. Do not forget that every woman appreciates the manifestation of care and tenderness. Be yourself, don't try to put on some kind of mask every day.
For a snack for you, a video from Pandora's Box on how to communicate with girls.
When answering questions, put the sign “+” if you agree, and “-” if you disagree.
I find it difficult to imitate other people.
I could probably play the fool to get the attention of others.
I could make a good actor.
Other people sometimes think that I am experiencing something more deeply than it really is.
In a company, I rarely find myself in the spotlight.
In different situations and in dealing with different people, I behave in completely different ways.
7. I can only defend what I deeply believe in. B. To succeed in business and in relationships with people, I try to be what they expect me to see.
9. I can be friendly with people who are not internally you.
10. I am not always what I seem. Sum up the scores using the table:
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Question number |
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Key:
0 - 3 points. Your communication level is low. Your behavior is stable, and you do not consider it necessary to change it depending on the situation.
4 - 6 points. You have an average level of communication. You are restrained, reckon with others.
7 - 10 points. You have a high level of communication. You easily enter into any role and are able to anticipate the impression you make on others.
Annex 13
Test in. F. Ryakhovsky "The level of your sociability"
Rate your answers as follows: "yes" - 2 points, "sometimes" - I point, "no" - 0 points.
I. You have an ordinary business meeting. Does her anticipation unsettle you?
Are you postponing a visit to the doctor until the last moment?
Do you feel embarrassed and dissatisfied when you are asked to make a presentation at a meeting, meeting or conference?
You are offered to go on a business trip to a city where you have never been. Will you make every effort to avoid this business trip?
Do you like to share your experiences with anyone?
Do you get annoyed if a stranger on the street asks you, for example, to show you the way, to tell you the time?
7. Do you believe that there is a problem of "fathers and sons" and that it is difficult for people of different generations to understand each other?
Are you embarrassed to remind a friend that he forgot to return 10 rubles to you, which he borrowed a few months ago?
In a restaurant or canteen, you were served a dish of poor quality. Will you keep silent, only angrily pushing the plate?
Once alone with a stranger, you will not enter into a conversation with him and will be burdened if he speaks first. Is it so?
You are horrified by any long queue, no matter where it is: in a store, library, theater box office. Would you rather give up your intention to avoid standing in line?
Are you afraid to participate in any commission to review conflict situations?
Do you have your own purely individual criteria for evaluating works of literature, and you do not accept any other opinions on this matter?
Having heard somewhere in the lobby an obviously erroneous point of view on a matter well known to you, would you prefer to remain silent without entering into an argument?
Do you get frustrated when someone asks you to help sort out a particular service issue or study topic?
Are you more willing to express your opinion or point of view in writing than orally?
Key:
32-30 points.
You are clearly uncommunicative, and this is your misfortune, since you yourself suffer the most from this. But it is not easy for people close to you. You are difficult to rely on in a matter that requires group effort. Try to become more sociable, control yourself.
29-25 points. You are closed, taciturn, prefer loneliness and therefore you probably have few friends. New work and the need for new contacts, if it does not plunge you into a panic, then for a long time will unbalance you. You know this feature of your character and you are dissatisfied with yourself. But don't limit yourself to your dissatisfaction. It is in your power to reverse these character traits. Doesn't it happen that with some kind of complete enthusiasm, you suddenly acquire complete sociability? It just takes a shake.
24-19 points. You are sociable to a certain extent and feel quite confident in familiar surroundings. New challenges don't scare you. And yet, with new people, you converge with caution, you are reluctant to participate in disputes and disputes. There is sometimes too much sarcasm in your statements for no reason at all. These shortcomings are correctable.
18-14 points. You have good communication skills. You are inquisitive, willingly listen to an interesting interlocutor, patient enough in dealing with others, defend your point of view without irascibility. Without unpleasant experiences, you make contact with new people. At the same time, do not like noisy companies, extravagant antics and verbosity annoy you.
13-9 points. You are very sociable (sometimes, perhaps even unnecessarily). They are curious, talkative, like to speak out on various issues, which sometimes causes irritation of others. Willingly meet new people. Love to be the center of attention, do not refuse requests to anyone, although you can not always fulfill them. It happens, flare up, but quickly move away. What you lack is perseverance, patience and courage when faced with serious problems. If you wish, however, you can force yourself not to back down.
8-4 points. You must be the shirt guy. Sociability beats out of you. You are always aware of everything
affairs. Like to take part in all discussions, although serious topics can give you migraines and blues. Willingly take the floor on any issue, even if you have a superficial idea about it. Everywhere you feel at ease. You take on any business, although you can’t always bring it to the end. For this reason, managers and colleagues treat you with some apprehension and doubt. Consider these facts!
Less than 4 points. Your communication skills are painful. You are talkative, verbose, interfering in matters in which you are completely incompetent. Willingly or unwittingly, you are often the cause of all sorts of conflicts in your environment. Quick-tempered, touchy, often biased. Serious work is not for you. People at work and at home have a hard time with you.. Yes, you need to work on yourself and your character. Cultivate restraint, tolerance, treat people more respectfully, and finally, think about your health - this lifestyle does not go unnoticed.
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