How to invite a 14 year old girl to date. Let's meet! A smart proposal to win the girl. Confess your love

Not sure how to invite your girlfriend to date? Several rules and secrets that will not let her refuse you!

The moment has come when you found that one and you do not want to let her go. Now is the time to find out if she wants to be your girlfriend.

If you are even scared to imagine yourself in the role of the initiator, act without further ado: invite her to take a walk in the evening, walk her home, kiss her at the right moment, etc.

It is undoubtedly easier. However, if you want to make the right impression on her, then you cannot do without a special setting and the right words.

How to invite a girl to date

In contact with

If you do not know how best to present the cherished words, then keep in mind that the easiest way is to do it on the Internet. This option is especially relevant if you are adolescents (the concept is extensible: at 12 years old, at 15, 20 years old).

So, we go to the most popular and multifunctional social network "Vkontakte", we come up with a recognition. It can take place as a classic “I like you. Let's meet? ”And more original sentences, composed using photos, pictures, videos and music.

It is also considered a completely non-trivial way to send graffiti on her wall or even a very arrogant and bold approach - without her permission, change your status "Actively Searching" to "Dating (name of the chosen one)."

So that she doesn't refuse

To do this, you need to make sure that she just burned out from waiting for your offer to meet. Getting her to agree 100% is not so difficult if you do everything correctly.

This requires:

Romantically

Get creative, think what she likes. Perhaps it will be:

• poems of his own composition;
• performance of the song;
• an inscription on the asphalt in front of its windows;
• finale of a trip to romantic places or, on the contrary, entertainment in an amusement park;
• soft toy, with a sound or graphic proposal to meet;
• after a candlelit dinner / going to the cinema, etc.

Important: Not all girls are not indifferent to romance, therefore, if suddenly after your proposal you do not see a special sparkle in her eyes, do not be offended or irritated. Perhaps she would rather prefer a more discreet approach to the development of your relationship.

If she doesn't want

As rude as it may seem, it means that she is not interested in you. Then you need to act gradually and carefully.

1. First, find out about her ideal man (ask through her friends, personally from her (you can do it anonymously), flip through her page on social networks, etc.).
2. Further, while communicating with her, subtly demonstrate those qualities that she highlights (just first think, is it worth it?).
3. However, don't be intrusive. If you do everything right, then after a while, perhaps, her interest in you will begin to wake up.

The former

Before asking her to start a relationship again, first analyze the reason for which you broke up. If you can fix it, then go for it!

Now your task is to convey to her that you are ready for a different relationship, but with her. For this, original methods of declaration of love, correspondence, conversations, practical assistance, etc. are suitable.

Choose the right words, reason out loud, inspire her that you can still be together again. You may have to prove the veracity of your feelings for a long time. Get ready for this.

At school

On the one hand, everything is simple here, because a girl at the age of 11-13 is just forming ideas about the guy she needs. On the other hand, it is difficult, because at this age, shyness and fear of being rejected in public are the worst enemies (although this can occur both at 14 and at 20).

That is why act on purpose:

• walk her home;
• invite her to walk with her friends in your company;
• try to spend more time with her and talk more often;
• make gifts (even if they are insignificant or those that you made yourself);
• protect her from offenders, etc.

Original

If you are wondering how you can offer to date a girl so that she will remember your beginning of the relationship forever, then show a little imagination.

All this will be very unusual. Surely you can find many ideas on the Internet by watching the video with the corresponding names.

If we are friends

Many people think that if you are friends, then you have no chance. But this is not the case. You just need to learn one rule: you don't need to be a girlfriend for girls, you need to show your masculine nature. By doing it competently, you will achieve even the girl you have known for a long time.

For this you need:

Following all these rules, after another week you will notice a significant change in her behavior: she will wake up a special interest in you.

However, in order for her to understand that she is in love with you, do not forget:

• support;
• laugh a lot with her;
• it is interesting to spend time;
• intrigue;
• talk about topics that are interesting to both of you;
• compliment her.

Tip: After a while, to awaken feelings in her, you will have to "disappear" for a while. Say that you are now extremely busy with important things, a blockage at work or the delivery of a term paper. Here she will have a chance to be left alone with thoughts of you, and then, perhaps, she will understand that she will not find anyone better than you.

Important: After your relationship starts to develop, do not give up your firm masculine position! Do not talk about how you have long dreamed of spending this night of love with her, etc. But, at the same time, do not pretend that you are indifferent. It is better if you hold her close to you and say thoughtfully: “And why did we hesitate with this? ..”.

By phone

It should be noted right away that such a proposal will be the least effective. However, if you decide to resort to it, then you need:

By sms

The main thing is not to propose to meet right away. We need to prepare her for this. For example, by correspondence, begin to admit how you feel about her, or in a personal conversation / during communication on the phone, hint to her about an important SMS that is waiting for her at a certain time.

And whether it will be a short sentence or a long prose is up to you.

Phrases

First, you can hint, and with what words - or come up with something of your own or choose from the proposed:

Or a hint:

• “I think we would be a great couple”;
• "I think we are a good match for each other."

Important: Even if you are a cheerful and resourceful guy, you shouldn't try to suggest a date with a girl in some funny way (with the help of humor), because she may think that you are just playing with her / joking and will not take you seriously.

1. Be sincere. You don't have to pretend to be a tough macho man, if in fact you have a delicate and vulnerable nature. Firstly, it will look ridiculous, and secondly, pretense is always repulsive.
2. Do not worry... Girls love confident guys. Remember: any ridiculous situation can be made winning, you just need to reduce everything to a joke. Your chosen one will not only receive a positive charge, but also note your resourcefulness and lack of fear. If you cannot avoid your excitement, then tell her about it directly. Surely she will be flattered that makes you feel this way.
3. Prepare her... She should look forward to what you offer her. If you just, having met her once again on the street, immediately ask to become her your girlfriend, she will be confused, she will think that you are not yourself.
4. Don't ask too much of her at once.... She might want to think. If you agree, do not drag her straight to bed: it will push her away from you.

Do not say that you are madly in love and cannot live without your beauty. But if this is so, you are very lucky: today you will find out how to offer a date to a girl.

Forget about silly phrases and other failures, because you need to do this without words!

Do not invite her to meet if ...

In fact, you don't always need to go up to a girl and tell her “let's date”. Even more, in 75% of cases it is simply not necessary. In order not to be mistaken and not to spoil the relationship with your lady, see if you belong to this category of men:

1. You understand that the girl doesn't like you

Doing crazy things for women is beautiful and sometimes effective, but not in your case. If the girl does not pay attention to you at all, and she does not get out of your head, forget about offering her a relationship. She will refuse you and this will only hit your pride.

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If you think that such an act as an offer will make her look at you differently, you are wrong. First, you need to go through all the preliminary stages of a relationship: establishing contact, dating, seducing - and only then you can make her your girlfriend.

1. On the first date

You met a girl and asked her out on a date. You communicate well and you understand that you would like to have a relationship with her. What are you doing? You say, “We feel so good together. Will you be my girlfriend? ”What does the girl feel at this time? She is just in confusion and confusion - you are the guy to whom she only recently drew attention, who has not yet earned much credit and has not yet become loved. Naturally, she will be afraid of such a sharp pressure and you will not only have no relationship with her, but you will not have a second date either.

The girl's reaction will be something like this:

1. You are already together

If your relationship started by itself: now you are already spending a lot of time together, kissing, trusting each other. Maybe you already practically do not go for walks separately and cannot live without each other. But you didn’t offer her to meet - what to do? Nothing - you are already dating and your proposal after all this will seem to the girl at least strange or stupid.

Do you know what the girls expect in this case? Confessions! She already knows that you are together, but she does not yet know how serious it is. But your recognition will put everything in its place - you are in the mood for a serious relationship.

1. You're not 15 anymore

If you are already an adult guy who has experience in relationships and knows how to seduce girls - forget about the phrase “let's date”. This is the lot of schoolchildren, adolescents and some students who are not confident in themselves.

You can't do without an offer when ..

There are situations when it is simply necessary to offer to meet. And if you do not tell the girl these cherished words, you simply risk losing her, or you are constantly in agonizing uncertainty:

1. There is no clarity in your relationship.

So you seem to have close body contact and spend time together, and then she dumps you, goes to the club and flirts freely (or worse) with other guys. What's happening? It's just that your relationship has a very vague framework: you are not a guy with a girl, but you are not strangers either. In such a situation, everyone perceives this connection as it is convenient for him: you may think that you have a relationship, but she simply will not take it seriously, thinking that this is another affair. If this happens, go ahead and offer the girl a relationship. Express your desire to be with her, make her give a positive answer. Thus, she will silently promise to be faithful and loyal to you.

1. Love works wonders

If you have strong feelings for a girl and want her to know about it, you can amaze her with a beautiful proposal. If you see that she also really likes you and you have already been on a date - act beautifully and original. Even an adult guy can make such an offer, because his goal is not so much to establish a clear framework in your relationship, but rather to evoke the best emotions in your beloved, associations with you and make the day when you become a couple special for her. This is such a symbolic touch in the development of your story.

1. If you are teenagers

Finally, we come to the main thing - the proposal to meet is the most important and meaningful for teenagers. And if you are one of them, this article is for you. It is very important for school-age girls that you say the cherished "Will you be my girlfriend?" Perhaps for your beloved (and for you too) this will be the first relationship. And of course, you still do not know how to correctly understand each other's gestures, you do not know how to correctly capture energy messages, hints and other trifles. Therefore, it is especially important to express your feelings in words and deeds. And if she answers you “Yes,” you should know that she is in love and is proud that she now has you.

A few tips from a professional: how to hook up with a girl prettier than you, details in the video ...

Soil preparation

You can propose to a girl only when you feel a connection between you, when both of you are comfortable alone with each other. If the girl continues to avoid or ignore you, it is too early to act. The situation when you are getting closer and closer can happen by itself, but it can also require your deliberate actions.

When you see each other often

If you are in the same class or in the same group, then it is much easier for you to win her attention. But remember, before you propose to her, she must go out with you for at least a couple of dates. In order to get closer to a girl, you can try these maneuvers:

1. Stand out for something good, like being highly praised, helping others, etc.
2. Ask her to work on the project with you. It could also be any other school assignment that will help you to be with her.
3. Try to chat with the girl, ask her some questions about herself. Also use praise: notice that she did a very good paper today, for example, and tell her about it.
4. Try to become her friend, but keep your distance so as not to get into the Friendzone.
5. Flirt with her - you can compliment her, be interested in looking at her, even straighten her hair.
6. If you are already close enough to communicate, you can accidentally touch her.
7. Invite her to ice cream.
8. If your walk was successful, you can try to sit next to her in class (preferably if she wants to).
9. Now you can walk with her more often, trying to hug her.
10. When you feel that she is ready - kiss her.
11. Now you can invite her to meet, because you have already become close and she is just waiting for your cherished words.

When there is no way to cross often

If you are not around all the time, you must arrange the meetings yourself. By the way, psychologists say that a person who often catches your eye is able to build trust and earn sympathy much faster.

The first thing you need to do is visit the places where she is, as often as possible. You should try to get closer to her - for this you can add her as a friend on VKontakte, comment on her photo and try to communicate.

For more details on how to stretch it for a walk, read the article "". And if everything worked out for you and she went for a walk with you, make these meetings permanent. Let her get used to them. And when you feel that she is interested in you as much as you are - invite her to meet.

What date to propose on

According to statistics, a girl is expecting an offer on dates 5-7. If you delay too much, she may simply lose faith and be disappointed in you and in this relationship. But making an offer earlier is also not recommended, because the first 2-3 meetings will only help you determine the girl's attitude.

How to properly suggest a date

If a girl willingly agrees to meetings and leaves them happy and elated, then the moment of the proposal has come. In order to do everything right, pay attention to the following things:

1. Your appearance

Even if you are not going to do anything special - you just want to hug her gently and say that you want to see her in the role of your girlfriend, take care of her appearance anyway. At such a crucial moment, you must be beautiful and well-groomed so that she does not doubt the correctness of her choice for a minute. You, of course, should not dress like a knight from old fairy tales - you are not going to marry. Be prettier than usual, but don't overdo it.

1. Venue

The meeting place depends on how you want to propose to her. It can be a park, a cozy cafe, a trip to some beautiful or special place. But keep in mind that during the proposal, you should not be interrupted by loud noise, and the girl should feel comfortable.

1. Flowers, gifts ...

Don't buy perfumes or other gifts that might just not work for her. Get by with an inexpensive gift in the form of a flower, a small souvenir or candy. In fact, you can do without all this at all, but the girl will be more pleased if you decide to back up your proposal with a small gift.

1. Your words

Remember that sincerity is the main thing. You must clearly and warmly explain to the girl what you feel for her and what you want from her. Girls just love specifics, when after a conversation you don't have to guess what you wanted to say by that. Emphasize what you like about her, speak gently but confidently.

If you choose poems or template SMS for her, do not forget to add something at the end of yourself. Let the girl feel that you did not just copy and paste this text without even reading it in full. For example, at the end of the verse, write: "I really feel all this for you, and I want you to be with me."

A few simple rules:

1. Be confident and persistent

You should not give up immediately, as it seemed to you that the girl has cooled down a little towards you. You must prepare her for the proposal using all your strength, charm and perseverance. Don't overdo it, but you can't do without it either.

1. Follow the girl's requirements

If you are already in close contact and you are preparing to propose, pay attention to what the girl requires of you. If she is offended that you did not call her yesterday, it means that she requires you to call every day. And you must do this by showing her that she is really dear to you. If the girl doesn't care, chances are she's not that interested in you.

1. Speak

Girls love with their ears and do not like to guess about your feelings. You are a man and you must be brave: say out loud all the good that you think about her and what you feel.

Say already these words: "Let's meet"

So, you decided to confess your feelings to her and invite her to date. You have already figured out where you will lead her and now you just have to decide what you say and wait for the right moment.

Moment

It is best to start talking when you are already standing next to her, she will be in your arms and you will kiss her. When you reach the peak of romance, just calmly tell her what you were going to do. You can whisper it in her ear, but not so quietly that she does not hear at all.

You can, holding her hands and looking into her eyes, confidently reveal all the cards in front of her.

Phrases

Better not to say the phrase "Let's date" - it sounds terribly trite and somehow stupid. You just need to modify and embellish it a little. Combine the compliment, the offer, and the expression of your feelings together. You can say something like this:

“We are so close that I can’t imagine my life without you. Will you agree to be my girlfriend? "

“You are the first who made me be like this - worried, confused and in love. But I really like it. I want you to be my girlfriend "

“The time we spend together are the best moments for me. I really want it to be as often as possible, so I would like to see you as my girlfriend. "

Of course, your phrase may be completely different ... and it shouldn't be that - you are a special person and your girl is also special. Just try to express what you feel in beautiful words.

Offer her to date beautifully

If it seems to you that this is nonsense, I will try to convince you otherwise:

1. It will change the mind about you

Of course, if a girl doesn't love you and she doesn't even like you, whatever you do is useless. But if she only has a drop of doubt about you and you need to make the final blow, surprise her with a beautiful confession and she will surrender.

1. It will make you special

If you are no longer a schoolboy or a teenager, a beautiful proposal may still be useful to you. No matter how old a girl is, she always expects concrete actions and beautiful confessions, and if you give it to her, your relationship will become especially important and valuable for her.

How to choose the right way

Everything is simple here: if a girl has a calm character, is romantic and gentle in nature, then the recognition should match her. These can be various romantic dinners, rose petals, and more.

If a girl is distinguished by brightness, extravagance and activity, present her with recognition with the same set of characteristics. Let it be something fun and unforgettable. It could be a trip to another pride that she wanted to visit. Take her to a crazy ride, a huge dolphinarium, etc. And at the end of the entertainment, say that it was all for her and make your proposal.

Also note to you: don't use gifts as a way to get your girlfriend. This can easily affect a mercantile person, but a good decent girl will feel in debt and will not be very comfortable from this. You don't want her to walk with you just out of politeness?

How to propose a relationship to a girl - see the video:

If a girl suddenly refused, learn to work with refusals:

There are times when even the most confident man is shy and has no idea what to do. It seems as if it is simply impossible to cope with the excitement, and all achievements fade, leaving a confused and defenseless person. We are talking about the state of being in love. And it doesn't matter if these are the first feelings or already a mature choice.

Why is this happening? First of all, of course, anyone is afraid of being rejected. Love is a manifestation of the highest, purest and most sincere feelings. It is very scary to be misunderstood, scary to tarnish this light with refusal. And if the refusal is rude? And if it happens in front of witnesses and is accompanied by mockery? And if they just don't understand? All these questions attack the lover, driving him more and more into a dead end, plunging him into doubts.

Is it necessary then to do anything at all? Should you then generally strive for something more, fight your fears, or continue to keep your sympathy in secret? It's time to understand yourself and start acting.

Should I even invite a girl to date?

So, it doesn't matter how old you are. You are in love or have special sympathy for the girl, but fear prevents you from deciding what to do next. Should you change anything at all, or should you go and offer to meet?

You need to initially evaluate your own feelings. If you really feel a strong attraction, if this is something special, you have never experienced anything like it, then you can talk about the seriousness of your intentions.

Also, the following signs may indicate this:

• The desire to spend more time with this particular girl, because she is very attractive,
• You don't see any flaws in it or they seem insignificant,
• It is important for you to see her as often as possible,
• Your thoughts constantly return to the object of sympathy - her appearance, clothes, words,
• You are not even able to explain why you only like her.

If at least some of these points or all of them coincided, we are talking about the most real feelings: sympathy, love, something sincere.

But, if for you all of the above seems to be absolute stupidity, then perhaps you belong to the second category of people for whom a relationship with a girl is just an indicator of status.

For many, especially in early adolescence, it is very important to be like everyone around, to feel like a part of the community. If everyone around has already acquired "second halves", then the feeling of being the only "black sheep" in the company can push you to look for a girl. However, think about it: do you need that imaginary feeling of "correctness" or is honesty towards yourself and the chosen girl more important?

You should think about the fact that when you start dating a girl that is not the most interesting for you, there is a risk of quick disappointment in such a relationship. The presence of common topics for conversation, the manifestation of interest of at least one of the parties in a partner is one of the very first necessities in a relationship.

Therefore, if you really feel attracted or liked, and also think that you have found the perfect girl, but are just afraid to take action - do not be afraid! Who knows, maybe this particular girl will become your wife in the future, perhaps she is the one with whom you will be able to live a happy family life? Perhaps it is from her that you will have children? Remember: what is better to do and regret than to regret that you did not, and then for the rest of your life to think that everything could be different!

Well, if you just need to keep up with those around you and the very fact of the relationship does not particularly attract you - do not deceive yourself and other people. Should not be doing that.

How to tell a girl that I like her and suggest dating

The girl really causes a storm of emotions and feelings in you, but approaching her, talking, and even more so saying that you really like her, and then offering to start a relationship is beyond your strength? This can be resolved.

Why are many men afraid to talk to a girl? The most common reasons are as follows:

• Fear,
• Self-doubt,
• The presence of complexes,
• Fear of rejection, ridicule,
• Past negative experiences.

Yes, these are all good reasons to avoid action.

But just imagine that she - the girl who attracts you - may also be afraid to take the first step. Or is it exactly she who will turn out to be the one with whom life will sparkle with new colors?

It's time to act!

How to confess your sympathy and suggest starting a relationship. Method one

Simple to the point of banality, but very complex morally. It is often possible not to develop complex strategies and workarounds, but to act directly. Therefore, the advice is simple to the point of banality: collect your thoughts, approach the object of your sympathy and confess your feelings to her.

Of course, even here it is worth following a few rules:

• Do not prepare long speeches - the best words are those that come from the very heart, filled with sincerity and warmth.
• Don't try to pretend to be someone you are not.
• Choose a convenient moment: when the girl is in a good mood, alone and not busy with business. So the possibility of a positive answer increases significantly.
• If you get a polite refusal, don't despair. Yes, sometimes it happens that sympathy is not mutual, but this is not a reason to blame yourself for this and refuse further relationships. Stay friends if you want - after refusal, many try to cut off all communication - why?
• In case of refusal, you can ask about its reasons, but remember that the main thing is to be polite and correct. Do not blame the girl, do not threaten her, do not try to resort to blackmail. Accept refusal with dignity and like a man.
• In the case of a positive response to your proposal, try to restrainedly express your emotions - too violent delight can cause at least bewilderment.

Despite the seeming simplicity, when using this method, it is worth observing several very important points: be neat (clean clothes and a daily shower are relevant every day), you can splash yourself with cologne with her favorite scent. Be persistent, but not excessively - if you are refused, then you should wait a while and you can try to repeat the confession. Let's say you do it after a few weeks or even months. Girls love persistent, but not annoying. You also do not need to be zealous with perseverance - after the third refusal, it is best to stop trying.

Confession for a girl. Method two

It is quite possible to start a relationship in a completely different way. If you are an extremely shy person, for whom approaching the object of sympathy is similar to death, then you can add mystery. What girl doesn't like riddles and messages from a secret admirer? Therefore, here is a ready-made idea for you:

• Make inquiries about what she likes, where you can discreetly leave a message for her so that someone else does not receive it. Remember that inept surveillance can make you a "maniac" in her eyes ...
• Write her a note or letter. Give a few compliments, dedicate poetry to her, tell her about your feelings - in short, you can write whatever you want. It's up to you to subscribe or not, but keep in mind that rudeness, obscene hints or phrases like “You ate so little yesterday at dinner in a restaurant” will have a bad effect on your future communication.
• If you want to stir up interest in you more, then you can keep the aura of secrecy longer - write letters or notes to your beloved. Let them have no logic - send them at different times, put them in different places and at different intervals. Let it be either short notes or long letters with some gifts like your favorite chocolate. You can not subscribe in any way or even come up with a pseudonym for yourself.
• When her interest is high enough, make an appointment with your beloved. And already on it, confess your feelings to your friend, offer to be together.

Yes, the possibility of refusal still exists, but if you showed enough ingenuity and were initially pleasant to the girl, then, most likely, she is already in love with you in absentia, so she will gladly accept the offer. Well, even if not, you will get the most valuable experience. In any case, there is no need to be upset.

Method three. Recognition and proposal

Help the girl. When people see each other often enough, there is a high probability that the guy has already managed to study her strengths and weaknesses and knows when help can come in handy. Do not leave her in difficult situations, provide support, and then, when left alone, admit to her how you feel.

The fourth way to confess to a girl

If a lady of the heart is a constant participant in friendly gatherings, then this method can also be used. Organize an event for the whole company - a trip to an amusement park, a picnic, a walk to interesting places. Make sure she takes part in this. During your vacation, catch the moment when you are alone with her in some unusual, beautiful and atmospheric place. Take action!

How to suggest dating nicely if you are friends

And what to do when you have been good friends for a long time? It seems that there is something between you or could be, but there is no exact certainty. It's somehow embarrassing to even raise the issue of this, especially since friendship is very valuable and many do not want to lose it ... But even in this case, there are always several effective ways for such situations.

• Write her a long letter of recognition. Decorate it beautifully, write sincerely what you think and feel. Attach a shared photo of fond memories for both of you.
• Invite her somewhere where she really wanted to visit, but has not yet had the opportunity. Give her an unforgettable experience, spend time with her as fun and intense as possible. And at the end of the evening, confess your feelings to her, invite her to take your friendship to a new level and start a relationship. In advance, choose a beautiful place that will create an unusual atmosphere.
• When you and the person you love have mutual friends, you can ask them to help arrange a surprise confession. It will be great if they come up with their own ideas or something special. Perhaps they probably know that you are also not indifferent to her and will be happy to share this information!
• Go on a trip with your friend. Nothing brings you closer together like the hardships and hardships of a hitchhiker or hike together, or an abundance of fun on a joint vacation. Moreover, a change of scenery will allow you to look at you with "new eyes", and there is a possibility that the offer will not even be required. And if it is necessary - who else, if not you, knows this girl? Create the conditions for her perfect date, and the answer to your recognition and proposal to be a couple will be a happy "yes".

In fact, when a guy and a girl are good friends, there are both pros and cons to it. On the one hand, who, if not you, always comes to the rescue, is a faithful companion in any kind of pastime, knows the details of your whole life and your innermost desires? But, on the other hand, this can also serve as a reason for refusal, due to the fact that you already know about each other, if not quite everything, then a lot.

And these are not always only positive aspects. There are aspects of life that can only be told to a friend, but not to a soul mate.

Don't be discouraged or discouraged. Often it is between the best friends that the strongest and most beautiful families are created, precisely because all the nuances of life and character traits were known in advance.

Be that as it may - it is a friend, or just a pretty girl who won your heart - never be afraid of confessions, it is better to overcome fear once. It is much more scary to wake up one day and understand that once the opportunity was missed to try to be close to the one that made the heart jump out of the chest.

Even if you get a negative answer to your proposal, don't worry. The most important thing is that you tried. This does not mean at all that something is wrong with you, it does not mean that you need to be afraid to try again and again. It's just that you somehow did not suit this particular person and there is nothing to worry about. Still ahead, you will definitely be happy with the one that will outshine all your past loves!

Sometimes guys who are in the mood for a serious relationship may not be the first to take the first step. This is due to the fact that they are afraid of being rejected. Well, if you do not offer to meet your chosen one, then someone else, a more self-confident young man, will do it.

Therefore, you need to take the bull by the horns and act before it's too late.

How to win a woman's sympathy?

Do you like a girl, but you do not know how to get her location? Everything is very simple. There are some rules to follow here.

Excessive focus is harmful

Yes, yes, it really works with both men and girls.

You need to show that you don't care about her. Some young ladies are used to the fact that a man always takes the first step, shows initiative, looks after and shows signs of attention.

Sometimes the female sex is addicted to it. Well, you can pay attention to her, but not fulfill various whims.

Important! Stand out more from all the gray mass. Then she will notice you.

More humor and jokes

You need to joke well and to the point. You should be noticed not only by the object of sympathy, but also by the whole company.

You can also come up with an original phrase that will make the girl laugh. The main thing is to make her smile. The Internet will help you.

Nice appearance

Ladies like well-groomed young people who take care of themselves, their speech:

• The body and hair must be clean.
• If you grow a beard, then you must keep an eye on it (accuracy will not hurt).
• Don't forget about ironed clothes and clean shoes.
• And of course add a zest - a pleasant scent of perfume. Girls love it when a bright and tasty aroma comes from a man.

Sociability

You must communicate freely, easily find topics for conversation and not let the lady of the heart get bored.

reference! This quality should be demonstrated not only to the chosen one, but also to everyone around.

Erudition

A person with a rich inner world always attracts attention. You always want to listen and listen to such people. Very good quality to win a girl's heart.

How to achieve the location of a woman is described in the video:

When should you move on to the next stage of your relationship?

« Offer to meet"Is a phrase that implies a serious, meaningful relationship. Of course, at the age of 12 or 13, seriousness is out of the question. Such love is more childish and naive. These are walks, sitting in a cafe, visiting attractions.

But adult couples are already seriously tuning in to such a step in their lives.

Before inviting a girl to date, you need to think carefully. Did you make the right choice? Usually guys are in a hurry with such a serious step, and the relationship ultimately does not lead to anything positive.

Important! To be 100% sure of the choice, you need to make sure of the sincerity of your feelings and the feelings of your chosen one.

Before proposing to your girlfriend, make sure she takes you seriously, too. If she has warm and mutual feelings for you, then you can act.

Another important factor is not to rush:

• You shouldn't immediately take the second step after the second or third date. You should get closer with the girl.
• You need to gradually and slowly get to know each other, what interests you have in common, what you like and dislike, etc.

reference! Rush is usually due to deceitful and imaginary feelings. Everything should go on as usual.

How exactly shouldn't you do it?

Unsuccessful actions and phrases:

1. You should not be a tough macho and use not quite suitable words for such a sentence. Example: “You are very hot and I like you. We must try to stir up. " This is not how you can do it. This will only alienate the girl from you. On such a day, you should be more romantic in nature, even if in ordinary life you like to pretend to be a bad guy.
2. It's not nice to offer a girl to meet by VKontakte messages or phone (unless of course you are 12 years old). From the outside, this method looks comic and frivolous.
3. Also, don't be pushy. He offered it once, the girl said "no", you will need to accept such an answer and let her go. And if you ask the same thing every day, try to achieve her, she will simply hate you and stop any communication.
4. No need to beg for a positive answer. Example : “I like you, be my girlfriend, please. Please say yes. Please please"

This is a very bad option. The opinion about you will immediately change and the chosen one will hasten to leave you alone.

Examples of the best phrases

Beautiful and romantic

If you and your girlfriend have mutual feelings, but no one was in a hurry to take the first step, then take it upon yourself.

The main thing is to do it in a beautiful and romantic setting, young ladies love pleasant and unexpected surprises:

• An excellent option would be to have an evening dinner on the rooftop with great views of the city. How everything will go, how you will decorate the meeting place, depends only on you, the main thing is romance. Such a pleasant atmosphere will inspire warm and correct words, and the girl's answer will not keep you waiting long.
• You can also ride a motor ship, arrange a walk under the moonlight, go to the beach, horseback riding, etc.

Which phrase is not desirable to use:

"Let's meet"- the most commonplace words. You are not fourteen years old to use this option.

What phrases can be used:

1. “You look wonderful today, however, as always. You know, we have become so close during our communication that I can no longer imagine my life without you. Will you agree to be my girlfriend? "
2. “The best moments in my life are connected with you. And I wish there were even more such moments, so I would like to see you as my girlfriend. "
3. “This is my first time feeling these feelings. To be needed by a person, sometimes to become confused and stupid. Even now I am terribly worried. But I like it. I want you to be my girlfriend "

reference! It is not necessary for the phrase to be exactly that. The main thing is to express what you feel about your chosen one. Be sincere.

How to invite a girl to date is described in the video:

Original

Offer to meet in an original way, what could be better? You don't even need words here.

1. Quest... At the moment, it is the most optimal and interesting option. You can think of it yourself or ask for help from specialists. The most important thing is that the quest is romantic, but at the same time insanely interesting. Do not forget about the zest at the very end - recognition of feelings.
2. Video clip. Make a short film of your photos, and also record your own video confessing your feelings. And then you can show it on the projector.
3. Flash mob. Also a very unusual option. Only here you will have to try to organize everything. A lot of people will need to be involved.

You can also take her to a crazy attraction, a dolphinarium, or even suggest a trip to another city. It all depends on your desire and imagination.

In verse

The easiest way. If you are a very romantic person at heart and love poetry, then go for it. The main thing is that the verse must be read from the heart, clearly and clearly.

Poem example:

“Let's meet with you!

I want to be with you

Throwing flowers

To give you love!…. "

Be sure to add something at the end from yourself. And best of all if it is your own poem.

Can I suggest in VK or by phone?

You can offer to meet by correspondence if you are not more than sixteen years old.

reference! This option is most likely suitable for school age, when the guy is still insecure and very shy.

At the age of 12 to 15, young people are afraid to be rejected, afraid to seem stupid. Therefore, it often happens that if the object of sympathy responded with a refusal, at a personal meeting, the young men say that it was a joke (or the addressee was mistaken).

Watch a video on how to date properly at 14:

An offer by phone is also not considered the best option. After all, if the girl agrees, then you will not see the joy on her face, you will not be able to hug and kiss each other.

But if you nevertheless decided, then:

• Speak clearly and lovingly;
• Do not interrupt the chosen one;
• Pause and wait for her answer;

Well, in general, over the phone, you can only hint at such a proposal, and the process itself can be carried out in person.

In general, such things are done live. It is better to overcome your embarrassment and appear in front of the girl as a self-confident guy. Then there will be more chances for a positive answer.

The main thing is to be confident in yourself.

Down with all the embarrassment! It's time to become a real man and do beautiful things for the sake of the one who sympathizes with you.

Speak.

Ladies love to listen with their ears and do not like incomprehensible hints. You must always speak directly and clearly: what you think, what you want and what you feel.

Care.

Remember to be caring. It's not difficult to call and find out how she is doing, how the day went, or how she feels. Or maybe she needs help, and you will come in handy.

And also a few rules:

• Don't forget about the appearance;
• Choose the right moment;
• Be yourself;
• Smile more;

So, to invite a girl to date, you don't have to move mountains and go crazy. The main thing is to show her your attention and your serious intentions.

Do not forget that you should not offer to meet by correspondence, it is better to do it in person, looking into each other's eyes.

Arrange a romantic evening, choose beautiful words and take action. If you adhere to the simplest rules even a little, then everything will be crowned with success.

Why do the most desperate guys suddenly give up before asking the girl they like to date?

There are two reasons for this:

• a person experiences timidity not at all in front of a weaker, from a physical point of view, a creature, but in front of his own feelings, that is, incipient love;
• a man by his nature is a conqueror, therefore it is psychologically difficult for him to be suddenly rejected.

It should be added to this that love between people arises in order to subsequently form a family. Moreover, this feeling gives us some "trial balloons" in the form of adolescent love, which rarely translates into strong affection and leads to family relationships. First love often falls on us as a test of feelings, does not come true, leaving wounds in the soul. But this is not a reason not to try. Maybe you are the chosen one of fate who is to enter into a marriage union with your first love. It would be foolish to turn away from this chance. In addition, in this life nothing happens in vain, and if you felt the need to date this particular girl, then you should still try.

Of course, this does not apply to those situations when you are impatient to start a relationship simply because your friends are already dating someone, and you do not have a couple yet even on the horizon. Starting a relationship just in order to show that you are no worse than others is simply deception and dishonesty in relation to the girl you fool around with.

How to start dating a girl

It's another matter if you really like the girl. Even if she is modest and nondescript, she may not be a source of pride for you, but she will become the only desirable person with whom you would like to be alone. You need to listen not to public opinion that “it would be nice to hook up this cutie,” but to your heart.

Understand your feelings and make a firm decision

Before deciding to propose to meet, understand for yourself why you need it:

• to be no worse than friends;
• to look brave next to a beauty;
• to be closer to someone you have been interested in for a long time.

Only the last answer will be correct. If the girl herself is dear to you, and not the fact that there is a being of the weaker sex nearby, then this will be a true reason for which you can decide on recognition.

Plan your proposal

Guys play a thousand times over in their minds how they will make this offer, and you, too, should not be an exception. In this case, you need to count on the fact that you can get a refusal. Of course, youthful maximalism and male pride can do their job, and such a refusal may seem like a final break. But how much can be lost from this! After all, a girl can change her mind later. In addition, at the moment she could just be shy, or maybe you just did not have time to charm her with anything. While both of you are young, you have roughly a thousand or more chances to try and fix things. Only every time you need to go from the other side. And there are many of these sides too. Not just black and white. The world is colorful, and there are many shades in it. Try, try, and you will always find the color that she loves. And she will fly at him like a bee to a flower, which contains more honey nectar.

These considerations mean that in addition to the only plan "A", there must be a plan "B", and so on. We were endowed with a fairly long alphabet and an almost endless number of numbers. So there should be a lot of plans, and they must be worthy, that is, none of them should contain even a hint of revenge for another refusal.

Accept any of her answers with dignity.

You can only take revenge for a public refusal, when you were humiliated in front of your friends, and what is even more offensive - in front of your enemies. But this "little revenge" is planned only if you do not want to associate yourself with this particular person anymore. And if you have a new passion on the horizon, then in no case involve it in this plan of revenge. This is unworthy and can lead to the rupture of new relationships.

If the girl refused delicately, then in fact there is nothing to take revenge on her. It's a simple right to love someone else or take time out to sort out your own feelings.

If you were reciprocated, then even in this situation you should not give vent to emotions to such an extent that you start dancing a jig in front of a girl or you will be content with satisfaction. Such ardor can simply alienate or scare your chosen one. Yes, it was a crazy success for you, and it's great! But it's not worth making yourself the craziest, or even the most maniac.

If you yourself are afraid of your own feelings, then you can use the old method: "paper will endure everything." Our distant ancestors used letters if they were afraid to look in the eyes, confessing their love or offering to meet. Now, in addition to paper, thanks to new technologies, there are several more ways to make an offer in absentia.

On the Internet: Vkontakte or another social network

This method is good if your chosen one herself is a fan of communication in social networks. And only if you know the girl well. If you just find her Vkontakte page and write that you would like to meet, then you may be mistaken for a person with sexual deviations or something like that. Also, the girl may not take this proposal seriously. Therefore, it is better to first just make an acquaintance on social networks, communicating on neutral topics.

And the proposal must be beautifully furnished so that it can be compared with the presented bouquet of flowers. For example, to send a charming landscape and against its background - taking poetry to the heart.

Make an offer by SMS or phone

You can use this way not only social networks, but also a mobile phone. For example, you can put poems in SMS, or even better - in MMS. If you know a girl, and the only thing that scares you is not the speed of her reaction, but an appraising look, then you can simply call her and offer to go somewhere together. And you can make a confession both by phone and at this meeting, if it takes place.

When meeting tete-a-tete

Even if it so happened that you met in person, but you are shy, then just lower your gaze, as if you are thinking, and ask if the girl wants to meet with you. Only the meeting should take place not in any prosaic place, but, for example, in a gazebo over the water, against the background of a beautiful landscape, or in a cozy cafe over a cup of tea or a portion of ice cream. The atmosphere should be relaxed, so you should not invite your future girlfriend to an expensive restaurant or an expensive trip. After all, this can also cause tension and create the impression that you are buying a person's favor.

How beautiful it is to invite a girl to date so that she agrees

A woman, no matter what age she is, is a real esthete. Therefore, the proposal on your part should be beautifully furnished. And in order to finally hook this person, do it in an unusual way. Banality is not a good romantic partner.

Original proposal on a date

If you can furnish an invitation to a date with the help of a sent bouquet, an envelope sealed with gold thread and postal wax, as well as a simulated telegram, then what to do when you have already met? After all, a single date does not mean the start of a long-term relationship. It is necessary to offer the girl in some original way to spend more time together. One good way is to show up on a date with a guitar or other musical instrument and sing a serenade of your own. Only at the same time you must be good at the instrument, so as not to cause laughter or outright regret from the new girlfriend.

If you are “you” with music, but you can recite well, then you can read her poems of your own composition. Of course, you can take as a basis a passage from one of the classics, but at the same time not read poetry, as in school at the blackboard, but as a famous theater actor would do - with all the storm of emotions, with Mkhatov's pauses, with accents. In general, you have to rehearse carefully to be appreciated. And if you read prose - Bulgakov, Bunin, Nabokov ... The girl will be delighted with your memory. But do not memorize too long passages: it is tiresome for you and for the listener. In addition, the usual envy can work here, which will replace admiration. Suddenly, the girl could never memorize a single verse at school or she was embarrassed to read them at the blackboard. And then there's the prose bounces off the teeth!

Romantic proposal to meet in verse

Poems in themselves are more romantic than prose. You know how to write them yourself, and your success is appreciated by others - this is your plus and your trump card. It is really worth taking on the recitation of classical poetry only if you have a minimum of acting skills. You can read your own verse with less pathos - it will still be appreciated.

But what to do if you are not a poet from birth? Sometimes an excess of feelings pushes a person to something that he has never done before. And you can have wonderful poetry. And let this verse be the only one in life, but successful. Sometimes - on the verge of genius.

However, the muse visits people not with enviable consistency, and may not come to you at all. Then it remains to climb for a verse on the Internet. Let's make a reservation right away: taking a ready-made recognition-proposal from a popular youth site is the worst option. Imagine how many people like you will read the same poem to their beloved girlfriend at the same time with you. And if, with the same verses, yesterday or the day before yesterday, a gentleman who had been rejected by her “rolled up” to your chosen one, and now you will present her with the same? You can't even grasp the meaning, which made the girl so funny. You might think that you yourself are pathetic in front of her. And she finds it funny because you and the loser have “composed” photocopied poems.

If you do use the Internet, then it is better to order a verse there on a special website. By the way, to be sure, it is better to check it with an anti-plagiarism program. So you will understand whether these poems were published elsewhere, or whether the order was made for you personally. After all, the performer will also be tempted not to write himself, but to take little-known lines of the same Alexander Blok, for example, and pass off as his original verse, composed just for you. It is even better to compose a hokku, the national Japanese verse of three lines, than to use a large replicated verse.

For example, like this:

Cherry blossom petal
Catching up with the other,
To continue the journey together.

Nice, but a little sad. There are only three lines, and in them there can only be a hint that you want to be with this girl. But even such a hint can be understood.

You can add a little humor:

How the thread goes for the needle,
Like the waves rush after the steamer
So I would like to be with you
And always be, not in passing.

It is not necessary to use the verse form for the meeting proposal. There are phrases that work almost flawlessly. This does not mean that the above expressions need to be learned by heart. This is just an example of how to simultaneously be unobtrusive, but at the same time show your interest in this particular girl.

Most popular words and phrases for the best sentence

“It seems to me that I have something more for you than ordinary friendly feelings,” - this is how you can say a girl with whom you are in the same company. If this is your colleague, then just tell her: “I think our relationship could be less formal. Maybe we’ll go for lunch together? ” Such a proposal, on the one hand, does not oblige you to anything, on the other, you will show that you are not indifferent to a person.

But immediately offering to go to a restaurant is unnecessary. Especially if the girl herself is still young and could never afford to dine in such establishments. Your task is to hook, not suppress with luxury. Therefore, you do not need to immediately say that you would like her to become your destiny, or that you alone decided (on your own) that you need to meet. Swearing that you will make your chosen one a hundred times happier than now is also not worth it. Just leave her choice and time to think. Otherwise, you can simply frighten off your sympathy.

How to become a couple if you are friends

When you have been friends for a long time, go on hikes or wander around your hometown, and in the usual company, it can be difficult to change the status “to your friend’s board”. But if it happened that yesterday's friend suddenly became a loved one, then you need to act. The most interesting thing is that in this case you can get closer somehow smoothly, without even dividing in time two periods - friendly and loving. Of course, you can immediately dot the "e" and say that for some time now you see in her more than just a companionable girl. But if you do not dare, then you can do otherwise.

When you already spend time in the same company, you can simply find yourself a little more often near your beloved. Offer her an umbrella when rain poured from a clear sky, treat her to ice cream, borrow mittens if it gets cold, give her a hand when you need to get over, albeit over a small, but obstacle - these and similar signs of attention contribute to a smooth rapprochement.

If you are in a large company, then no one will immediately pay attention to the fact that you have decided to retire with the girl in order to start a conversation that is interesting to you two. You don't have to dedicate it right away to your relationship. It just might be the topic that she and you like. If this continues from time to time, then your mutual friends will gradually get used to the fact that the company has formed a "couple" with which "everything is clear."

Imperceptibly, you can in this way and move to permanent residence with this girl or settle her at home. And then you will become an accomplished couple. Without tearing, without emotions and other things. And you ask: where is the beauty of feelings? Why did it all suddenly work out on its own? You just gave the lady a reason to understand that next to her is a real knight. And even if there was no serenade, hokku, poetry, but your actions said more than words could express.